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I know what you’re thinking. That whole Occupy Whatever movement has come and gone. While some may argue that’s true, it’s also why I bring this up now. Because after you’ve been out changing the world, it’s time to come inside and Occupy Your Bedroom.

You see, there’s always going to be something to be upset about, something to protest about, and something to yell about. But unless you occupy that bedroom, there may not always be someone there to talk to after you’ve been pepper-sprayed by some dickhead cop, or …

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Not long ago, The Hollywood Reporter, which is some kind of online smut magazine, published a story with this headline: “Brad Pitt Uses ‘Moneyball’ Promotional Tour to Criticize Jennifer Aniston“.
About his former marriage to Jennifer Aniston, Brad Pitt had said this: “I started to get sick of myself sitting on a couch, holding a joint, hiding out. It started feeling pathetic. It became very clear to me that I was intent on trying to find a movie about an interesting life, but I wasn’t living an interesting life myself. I …

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Hello Dr. Matt,
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years, though what we have is a long-distance relationship. Before we finally hooked up, he was broken-hearted because his ex left him. Then, after a while being together, he told me that he loves me and that he no longer loves his ex. When I hacked his email—I know, I’m bad—I saw email trails and chat messages of their love, all recent.
I cant tell him what I saw.  What am I gonna do?
Thank You,
Confused in Georgia

Dear …

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Dear Dr. Matt,
Can you offer any words of wisdom for two special people on their wedding day?
-Matthew
Thanks for your question, Matthew. By the way, just so you know, I’m not capable of speaking words that don’t contain wisdom. It’s one of those side-effects of being wise. But let’s see what I can say to the two special people you refer to.

A wedding is quite a fun time. I’ve been to a bunch this year, and each one was special in its own way, and not …

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Well, summer is wedding season, and Midgie and I have been to a bunch this year.   Not only that, but one of Midgie’s close friends is getting married, and she asked Midgie to be the maid of honor, and help a bit with the planning.  This basically translates to yours truly being along for the ride as well.

Now, folks, I don’t know if you’ve ever planned a wedding, but the first thing you realize is that everyone has their own individual idea about what it is, and those ideas …

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Dear Dr. Matt-
What are Dr. Matt’s thoughts on girls dating younger men?
Signed,
Cultured, Older Unattached Gal After Romance

Dear COUGAR,
My guess from your question is that this isn’t a hypothetical.  There’s a guy that crossed your path that created quite a spark, but the age discrepancy gave you pause.  I can also safely guess that this question isn’t about the mechanics of such a coupling.  Amongst adults, the mechanics of physical intimacy tend to be pretty much identical.  Nor is this question about even whether or not you would enjoy dating someone …

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I’ve been working on this book about relationships lately that I know you’re all eagerly anticipating.  As they say, you can’t rush genius so you’ll have to go on waiting for a bit.  I was originally going to call it, “Just Stop Having Stupid Relationships.”  But now I think I’m going with the title: “When It Comes To Relationships, You’ve Been An Idiot.”  I think either title expresses my point.

I was talking about the book with Midgie one day, because I was stuck in a part of the book on …

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This month, I had another session with my client Dean, someone who I’ve mentioned a couple times before.  Dean was doing pretty well.  He seemed to have taken my advice, which was to recognize the potential that he carried with him at all times.  In fact, he’d gained such confidence in himself that he’d caught the eye of a lucky lady and had been in that new relationship for a few weeks.  I gotta say, that girl is fortunate to have a guy like Dean in her life, and likewise, …

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My good friend Loveleen and I were having drinks one night at a nice quiet bar in Vancouver.  If you don’t remember, Loveleen is a gorgeous girl who also happens to be a lesbian.  I was consoling her because her relationship hadn’t worked out.  You see, she had waffled for some time about how far to dive into the relationship she’d been in, and while she had tried to make up her mind, the other girl had made the decision for her and had left.

Now a couple months later, Loveleen …

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Yesterday, I met with Dean, a really great guy that had gone through a lot of changes lately.  You may recall that a while ago a relationship ended for him.
Dean was struggling with letting go.  You see, you may also recall that the relationship provided him with some great sex, along with all the other stuff that goes with it: love, joy, passion, etc.  But the relationship had also provided partnership, friendship, and at one point, held the promise for Dean that there might be the opportunity for building a …